* [[ 了解爱情 ]] *

开始的开始总是甜蜜的。
后来就有了厌倦、习惯、背弃、寂寞、绝望和冷笑。
曾经渴望与一个人长相厮守,后来,多么庆幸自己离开了?
曾几何时,在一段短暂的时光里,我们以为自己深深的爱着的一个人。
后来,我们才知道,那不是爱,那只是对自己说谎。

你以为不可失去的人,原来并非不可失去。你流干了眼泪,自有另一个人逗你欢笑。
你伤心欲绝,然后发现不爱你的人,根本不值得你为之伤心。
今天回首,何尝不是一个喜剧?情尽时,自有另一番新境界,
所有的悲哀也不过是历史。

爱情总是想象比现实美丽,相逢如是,告别亦如是。
我们以为爱得很深、很深,来日岁月,会让你知道,它不过很浅、很浅。
最深最重的爱,必须和时日一起成长。 

因为爱情的缘故,两个陌生人可以突然熟悉到睡在同一张床上。
然而,相同的两个人, 在分手时却说,
我觉得你越来越陌生
爱情将两个人由陌生变成熟悉,又由熟悉变成陌生。
爱情正是一个将一对陌生人变成情侣,
又将一对情侣变成陌生人的游戏。

相信爱情可以令一个人改变,
是年轻的好处,也是年轻的悲哀。浪子永远是浪子。
令男人改变的,也许是上帝的爱或者佛祖的慈悲,但绝对不会是女人。
最不宜结婚的是浪子,最适宜结婚的也是浪子。
往往不是女人改变一个浪子,而是女人在浪子想改变的时候刚好出现。 

时间会让你了解爱情,时间能够证明爱情,
也能够把爱推翻。
没有一种悲伤是不能被时间减轻的。
如果时间不可以令你忘记那些不该记住的人,我们失去的岁月又有什么意义?
如果所有的悲哀、痛苦、失败都是假的,那该多好?
可惜,世上有很多假情假义,
自己的痛苦、失败、悲哀,却偏偏总是真的。

他纵有千个优点,但他不爱你,
这是一个你永远无法说服自己去接受的缺点。
一个人最大的缺点不是自私、多情、野蛮、任性,而是偏执地爱一个不爱自己的人。
暗恋是一种自毁,是一种伟大的牺牲。暗恋,甚至不需要对象,
我们不过站在河边,看着自己的倒影自怜,
却以为自己正爱着别人。

爱情和情歌一样,最高境界是余音袅袅。
最凄美的不是报仇雪恨,而是遗憾。最好的爱情,必然有遗憾。
那遗憾化作余音袅袅,长留心上。
最凄美的爱,不必呼天抢地,只是相顾无言。
失望,有时候,也是一种幸福。因为有所期待,才会失望。
遗憾,也是一种幸福。因为还有令你遗憾的事情。
追寻爱情,然后发现,
爱,从来就是一件千回百转的事。

最浪漫的爱是得不到的。
最浪漫的情话,是当那个已经跟你分了手的人打电话来问:"你好吗?"
你稀松平常地回答:"我很好。"
而其实你还爱着他,你一点也不好。
男人伪装坚强,只是害怕被女人发现他软弱。
女人伪装幸福,只是害怕被男人发现她伤心。

爱情,有时候,是一件令人沉沦的事情,
所谓理智和决心,不过是可笑的自我安慰的说话。
爱情从来都是一种束缚,追求爱情并不等于追求自由。
自由可贵,我们用这最宝贵的东西换取爱情。
因为爱一个人,明知会失去自由,
也甘愿作出承诺

诺言是用来跟一切的变幻抗衡。
变幻原是永恒,我们唯有用永恒的诺言制约世事的变幻。
不能永恒的,便不是诺言。
诺言是很贵的,如果你尊重自己的人格。 
爱是诱惑,也惟有爱能给你力量抗拒诱惑。
爱是忠诚,可是爱也会令你背叛。

一个人负心,或许是因为他的记忆力不好。
他忘记了,所以他能够负心;不是因为他负心,所以他忘记了。
以前种种,他并非完全忘记,但他记忆力太差了,往事已经不再深刻,
很快就被新的记忆取代,只记得新人的欢笑,
忘记旧人的笑脸

懂爱的女人通常输得很惨。
爱情本来就是残忍的,胜者为王。
感情可以转帐,婚姻可以随时冻结,激情可以透支,爱情善价而沽。
是的,在这细小的都市里,这就是我们的生活。
今天的长相厮守,只是尽力而为而已。
最安全和最合时宜的方式,还是和自己厮守

愈害怕失去的人,愈容易失去。
愈想得到,就愈要放手。放手是很难的,但是别无选择。
世上有很多东西是可以挽回的,
比如良知,比如体重。
但不可挽回的东西更多,譬如旧梦,譬如岁月,譬如对一个人的感觉。
放弃一个很爱你的人并不痛苦,
放弃一个你很爱的人才是痛苦。

食物可以有标签,说明"请在此之前食用"
女人不是食物,青春是有期限的,忍耐也是有期限的,
请在期限期满之前好好爱她,好好照顾她,
因为她是过时不候的。
爱情有生、老、病、死。爱情总在不知不觉间过期。
有一天,
我们把它拿出来,
才知道它最鲜活的日子已经永远过去。

在最有感觉的时候,她没有停下脚步,
那么,也不必在一起走完那段路之后,回头去寻找那些散落在地上的感觉, 路已经走完。
爱情中最伤感的时刻是后期的冷淡,
一个曾经爱过你的人,忽然离你很远,咫尺之隔,却是天涯。
曾经轰轰烈烈,曾经千回百转,曾经沾沾自喜,曾经柔肠寸断。
到了最后,
最悲哀的分手竟然是悄无声息。

                            

Smile, And Live Once More..

... I blamed myself for giving up.. I wept my failure becoz i deprived of wat should hav been mine.. But people say that, in love one has to giv without wanting in return... Its good if something is given back in return, If none then, try again... In love, we cannot alwiz b happy, we also hav 2 take da lost...

... I realized then that i do not hav 2 feel trashed, to feel unloved, to feel rejected n to consider myself as a loser.. For even if i havent won da battle at least i was brave enuff on da attempt... Still Im a winner in my own way.. So i wiped my tears away.. Im now ready to start a new life.. My failure was a gift from which I should try to learn to grow.. This is what love is all about.. sacrifice... We hav 2 find joy and fulfillment in making others filled and happy even if we get hurt..

... Acceptance juz comes too hard sometimes.. It takes time to accept and it takes much time to forget.. But people come n go in our lives, JUST BE WITH IT... We cannot simply let go of sumbody n forget becoz da memories will still b there haunting our heart... However, we should never cling to tht memories, instead we should used them as a tool 2 grow n 2 learn... One juz hav to smile, n pick da falling debris of dreams n live once more..

... From this, Ive learned tht though how hard it is to let go somebody without feeling hurt... I hav 2 accept tht he is gone n we r not meant 2 b... N dis is da worst thing ive ever done for love.. Indeed, da greatest thing ive had from love is to love itself.. I was lucky for being able to love n 2 b loved.. I learned to 4get, more so, I learned how 2 grow n let go of somebody without having regrets ab it and without feeling hurt..

... Like i said, jz click da DELETE button n erase everything in ur memory, throw them into RECYCLE BIN, REFORMAT ur heart n mind, n RESTART all over again.."

*[[ Say GoodBye ]]*

U covered me with silken lies
Complements and charming eyes
Sly grins, gentle touch ...you knew
Don't say you didn't know, you knew
From the beginning you didn't care for me
But I still felt like a sapphire...
You are a cunning one Mr. You Know Who
Wiv all the lies you told me I misconstrue
You told me that you cared, complements galore
But I'm through, the true you i can no longer ignore
Did you ever grasp the concept I am a person who feels?
That things you said would make me fall head over heels?
I believed every single word off that lying tongue
With those callused hands my heart strings you strung
I will no longer believe anything you say
You are vapor, gone, do you get it, okay?
Don't talk to me loser, I don't care anymore
Yea that's right buddy, and you never did score
So long, farewell, adios, sayonara, buh-bye...

...心灰意冷...

… Can you tell me how to b happy when all of da ppl whom I gave my trust knocked me down?

… How can I still smile each day knowing that here I am, found myself mourning again and feeling so restless, knowing that I just risked my heart believing that he would give me happiness?

… Would u condemn me if I would tell u that part of me wants to let go and move on. And d other part wants to stay? I know what’s wrong and right, I know what’s good and bad. But could u tell me where exactly I belong?

… Do u hate me coz I learned how to love da person whom I thought would make me feel better?

… Is it my fault not knowing that my happiness gives sadness to those ppl who’s been there all along? And would it be better for me to throw away that happiness for them, thinking that it would be the last hope that I got? As if im throwing the best part of my life?

… Could it be the right move for all of the people involve? Do u think its fair for all? Including me? Or am I too egotistic that all im talking about is how I feel?

… Am i? Still too selfish that all this time I wanted to get out of this emotional sickness that I have since I don’t know when? And he’s d only person who helped me to feel better each day?

… Did u ever think that when he hurt me, he took da last hope that I have in me? Did u consider that I was also hurt by the fact of life? Or u just see me as a person who doesn’t even care? That’s so not fair..

… Too much questions in my head. We r all victims here; I still need to mourn upon the death of something in me, a part of me who believes in him, piece of me who died when he hurt me.

… So please have a heart for me, this is the only thing that I could do. Let me cry, let me weep. For da last time let me feel the love that I thought was real, let me grieve. Never to criticize me, as you just don’t know me, and u just don’t know that what I feel for him is so real.

… It’s a pain for me, it would make me so glad if we never had...

HEARTS will neva be practical til they are made -U.N.B.R.E.A.K.A.B.L.E-

For every love found as many or more have been lost along da way... I know I've had my share as I'm sure most of u have... But I feel that true love never really dies... It may fade but a part of that feeling stays with u forever... But da pain u feel when love fades is very real indeed and surely da strongest emotional pain a person can ever experience... Some people don't survive that pain and many are damaged forever becoz of a love that didn't last… If u could actually lose love completely there would be no pain... But relationships do end and love itself can lose it's intensity over a period of time... Some of da poems were written over a love I only thought I had lost but that returned to me and remains wiv me even now... It's a scary feeling though, thinking that a love has ended... Almost losing it and finding it again can be an emotional roller coaster... As da old saying goes, "u never miss da water till da well runs dry"… So I included these poems in da book mostly as a reminder to myself as to how important love is and to make me appreciate da love I have all da more... Perhaps we all need a reminder every now and then...